We all live stimulated by commercials that invite us to consume stuff and services and everything advertised is bought with money. Therefore, our children and youth must have to know the truth value of it, how do you get it and what is it for.

Money is the needed life's energy, it is not forbidden to talk about it. It is positive to exchange ideas about it so the children get used to know its purpose.

The little ones write letters to the Three Wise Men, to Santa Claus and they think that, as if by magic, they will bring them everything they ask. The reality is that parents are the ones through their work that buy and sometimes with a lot of sacrifices.

The first point is that the money allows to buy stuff and services of all kind and it is necessary for the life. The children since early have to know that through the tenacity and effort in the work they earn the pennies, it does not fall from heaven. Therefore, they have to know from around 6 years old that it is the adults who buy gifts and it is not powerful entities that magically are capable to provide everything.

The parents work and the work must be pleasurable and it serves as necessary income for living. Hence, it is very important that the parents do not complain about their employment obligation because the children receive the message that the place it is unpleasant, where you will go to suffer. Many parents pass them on the idea to their children that they go only for the money. In reality, the message would have to be that the work they do they like it and allows it to live.

When the children are asked to buy them, the parents must have to explain that they do not need it, they have enough, according to the occasion that it is expensive and, sometimes, they do not have enough money. Many adults in order to hush their children they tell them that they do not have money, and so they manage to stop their request. This is not positive, because children can develop fear to the poverty, to be poor. We suggest not to say that there is no money, but explain why not to buy. Also, it is necessary that they know that the money is not happiness nor the only life objective.

In many homes the parent argue for many monetary reasons because they have a different point of views about expenses and management. Avoid these fights in the presence of the children because they can interpret that money it is the problem source and feel that it is something negative.

When bills to pay arrive the parents complain in front of the children, despite of having enough money. This can cause to them to worry and even can be obsessed for the lack of it.

When the child knows to sum and to subtract you can give them money to buy, for example, in the school canteen. So he can start to understand the values of the numbers and from the money he receives. The children have mandatory tasks and because of that there is no reward, but yes in some given situation if they accomplish an extra task they can be paid off or given them a gift as a stimulus because he did it through his effort.

The behavioral question: What is it money for you, how do you earn it, do you manage it, and do you fear it. There are parents fearful for not having enough money and the children feel these fears, which provoke a great insecurity. Do you speak a lot about the topic or do you even mention it in front of your children?

* *Psy. Fanny Berger, Gestalt psychology. You can contact her in her web o in her facebook